Thursday, 20 March 2014

PREVENTION IS BETTER THAN HEARTACHE

There were times where I felt that certain people in my life did not regard me as a mother though I have conceived; I had never given birth to a baby.  I’m not talking about people spending money on gifts – sometimes a simple text goes a long way for someone in the middle of an infertility storm. 

I understood what a miracle, privilege and blessing it was to be a mother. I celebrated women who were able to do what I was not able to and when this was not reciprocated, it offended me.  Contrary to how I felt, other women resent Mother’s day because their bodies have failed them, they have no interest in celebrating themselves or others and that should be accepted and respected.  They have every right to feel that way and perhaps someday that will change.

When girls start their period, plans are made to put them on contraceptives and young girls can get contraceptives without their parent’s consent.  You grow up believing that if you have sex, you will fall pregnant and this make you feel like a fertile goddess. Why would you not conceive when you are ready?  There is never a real discussion about sexual heath and woman’s health in general.

It had a psychological impact on me because I wasn’t mentally prepared for infertility and the fact that I could never have children. There was no indication that I had any medical conditions that could be a threat to my unborn children or prevent me from having a healthy nine month pregnancy.  This should be an important conversation for countries that have a deep embedded cultural belief about female fruitfulness. Times have evolved and there is so much that can be done, medically, when conditions that affect women’s fertility are discovered on time.

PREVENTION IS BETTER THAN HEARTACHE

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