There were times where I
felt that certain people in my life did not regard me as a mother though I have
conceived; I had never given birth to a baby.
I’m not talking about people spending money on gifts – sometimes a
simple text goes a long way for someone in the middle of an infertility storm.
I understood what a
miracle, privilege and blessing it was to be a mother. I celebrated women who
were able to do what I was not able to and when this was not reciprocated, it
offended me. Contrary to how I felt,
other women resent Mother’s day because their bodies have failed them, they
have no interest in celebrating themselves or others and that should be accepted
and respected. They have every right to
feel that way and perhaps someday that will change.
When girls start their
period, plans are made to put them on contraceptives and young girls can get
contraceptives without their parent’s consent.
You grow up believing that if you have sex, you will fall pregnant and
this make you feel like a fertile goddess. Why would you not conceive when you
are ready? There is never a real discussion
about sexual heath and woman’s health in general.
It had a psychological
impact on me because I wasn’t mentally prepared for infertility and the fact
that I could never have children. There was no indication that I had any medical
conditions that could be a threat to my unborn children or prevent me from
having a healthy nine month pregnancy. This should be an important
conversation for countries that have a deep embedded cultural belief about
female fruitfulness. Times have evolved and there is so much that can be done,
medically, when conditions that affect women’s fertility are discovered on
time.
PREVENTION IS BETTER THAN HEARTACHE
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